My Approach

Values
I fervently believe in the value of the therapeutic process and relationship, and I strive to develop a way of thinking about, and practicing, counselling and psychotherapy that starts from an ethic or respect and responsibility: How can I engage with my clients – and with the wider world – in a deeply valuing, respectful and helpful ways?

Why therapy?
Everyone is different, and everyone has a unique life full of difficult challenges and strengths. Thus, the aim of my work is to collaboratively focus on what you may want and need me to help you with. Some people come to therapy when they may feel overwhelmed by the lack of control over their lives, when they may feel helpless and vulnerable as they struggle to find different and more helpful ways to live a meaningful life. Others seek therapeutic help when they have a general feeling that “something is not quite right” or “something needs to change”. Most people come to me for deep change, which takes time and hard work, although we can focus on specific short-term goals of symptom removal.

Inner world issues
Whatever the reasons are, I want you to feel safe and accepted. I want to stand alongside you, to be with you and to be for you, so that you are able to explore your inner world issues, difficulties, heartbreaks, existential concerns, injuries, disappointments, frustrations, fears, losses, loneliness, dangers, shame or guilt, invalidity, anxieties, worries about global issues or other complex experiences. We will also focus on your strength’s while we work towards desirable change.

Outer world issues
Furthermore, in your psychotherapy with me, I will aim to explore with you and understand your outer world issues, the life-difficulties you have faced, and currently face, in relationships with partners, family or other loved-ones, in your employment or professional setting, and/or any other region of your life-world.

Focus on experiences
My focus will always be on your personal experience of these difficulties from your unique perspective on yourself, others, and the world, and the feelings your perspective evokes.

Therapeutic change
By working together, I aim to help you to become more aware of your blind spots, understand your troubling feelings, thoughts and/or behaviours, to accept what cannot be changed, and change what can be changed, so that you can break the cycle of hopelessness. The therapeutic work can help you to find new ways to relate with yourself and others around you; to distinguish if what you do is meaningful to you or if you merely follow the expectations of others; to explore and expand new possibilities for personal change, and to build more fulfilling personal relationships.

 

Clinical Specialities

Clinical areas of interest include: issues pertaining to attachment and relationships, loneliness and alienation, difficulties with emotion regulation (anger, fear etc.), low self-worth, emotional eating issues, depression, anxiety, sexuality, traumatic experiences, sexual and emotional abuse, psychosis, existential concerns such as mortality, meaning in life, decision-making, socio-cultural contextual influences in life and people’s own role in this.

Life Transitions and shattering trauma
Whether it’s getting out of an intimate relationship, getting the diagnosis of a life-threatening disease, suddenly losing a job, changing careers, becoming a parent, or dealing with loss, even positive life changes can be stressful.
In daily life, we believe life is predictable, we are in control of what happens, we are secure, and good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people. However, life events can make us suddenly aware of the reality that we are hiding behind our positive assumptions. In such situations we may feel frustration, anger, and ask such questions as “why did this happen to me?” We are confronted in an undeniable way with reality: it is impossible to believe in full control or invulnerability. The therapy can help you to embrace such changes and develop a more realistic positive assumptions, which enables to experience life as meaningful again.

Relationship issues
Relationships allow us to experience meaning in feeling connected, understood, cared for, in feeling that we belong to a specific community (e.g., family, friends, intimate relationships, colleagues, society), and that we take care and improve the well-being of others. They are the source of both safety and novelty or new learning. However, we may also feel stuck, confused and distressed in our relationships. We may struggle to make sense of them and we may feel that we are repeating some sort of painful and destructive patterns, which leave us feeling small, lonely, helpless, unwanted and alienated.
Therapy can be of great help, as therapeutic relationship itself can be used to work these issues through. Together we can try to identify and understand the aim of old repetitive patterns and themes that lead to pain and conflict in relationships. Patterns are often a sign of traumatic experiences and as we explore your meaning-making, it may present new relational possibilities and allow you to develop more meaningful and satisfying relationships.

Depression, anxiety, and stress
Feeling that nothing makes sense, that life is out of control, experiencing tiredness, intense fear, heaviness, sadness, or having difficulty regulating whatever you feel. Therapy offers many different ways how to approach these uncomfortable experiences. We can try mindfulness exercises, breath work and/or guided imagery that can calm and relax you.
I can also help you to explore and understand your experiences of depression and anxiety. Often, we may see such feelings as negative and wrong, or “not normal”. Such feelings are normal, they are like a compass – indicating that there is something we should not be doing, and that instead we could do something that is more helpful or meaningful to us. Finding new and more effective ways of coping will help to relieve the distress in time.

Cumulative trauma and abuse
We do not need to experience a life-changing event to experience trauma. Some of us need help with the lifelong consequences of everyday, endlessly repeated micro-traumas, abuse, negative criticism, and lack of care that occurred in our childhood. Such frequent repetition of seemingly minor hurts can often lead to serious problems in relationships, self-experience, and in finding meaning in life.

Diversity
I worked with people from various cultures, backgrounds, and LGTBQ+ who experienced direct or indirect impact of inequality and discrimination. Even if I may not have direct experience with a particular culture, background, and identity, I am sensitive to the profound impact that inequality may exert on us and invite an ongoing open dialogue to enrich mutual understanding. My approach is to encourage you to tell your story and understand what has happened to you, that is, how Power operated in your life; how it affected you; how you made sense of it; how you responded to it. My aim is to help you to regain personal agency and develop internal and external resources.

 

Therapies Offered

My work is rooted in a pluralistic approach, which brings together elements of psychodynamic, humanistic, existential and cognitive-behavioural therapeutic modalities. It means that different theories or therapeutic models will be more or less helpful at different points in time, depending on what you might need or want me to help you along your therapeutic pathway.